Why family stereotypes better be overcome as soon as possible?

In some families, since the girl`s teen years she`s being taught to be a good mother or made to look after her siblings. Some parents force their daughters to know all “baby stuff”. While boys are expected to be successful businessmen.

Thus, the amount of girls who are not prepared to parenthood is much lower than boys, what might cause difficulties to newly-made fathers, struggling from not understanding how to behave and what to do with a tiny little crying mini person. In this situation, their wish to get into ‘kids’ stuff’ and to help their partners is highly meaningful.

It`s believed that a mother is responsible for children, housework, cooking, a father – for a family budget.  Conservatism of the society`s views make women guilty for the house mess, naughty children or taste of food, they cooked, shifting all the responsibility onto them.

Additionally, here is a belief of men that woman is a nanny-housekeeper, who doesn’t need help. It happens, mostly because the older generation used to convince the younger one that earning money is the hardest duty, that there is “man`s” job and “woman`s” job and this foundation better not be changed.

It gets even more absurd when men say that women are “chilling” at home, relaxing, while they actually don’t have a free hour to pursue their hobbies, do something they want to do instead of what they need to do.

It`s important to mention young parents` wishes. Perhaps both of them want to work or the father wants to babysit kids. Young adults sometimes don`t even understand that their actions come from someone else`s principles and a fear of being judged by their relatives. It`s absolutely normal, because in this situation both men and women have been told that this particular type of household management is the only correct one.

“Mum and dad have much more experience than I do, even though it seems wrong, I should run the household the way they did.”

That’s how, likely, young adults think in this situation.

Therefore, beliefs and views of older generation have to be changed. Most of the adults and old people won`t agree, but if they want their children to live safe and sound in peace and love, they should try to understand what modern views stand for.

Undoubtedly, people should be grateful to the ones who raised them, but they don’t owe them anything, for example, grandchildren. If mature people have kids for specific purposes, that questions their readiness to become good parents. Thus, becoming a parent has to be decided only by a person himself and his partner, not by his mom, grandpa or dog.

Accepting your child`s wish to become a parent/guardian at 20, 30, 40 or to be childfree is one of the key aspects of maintaining a healthy relationship with him. It is completely normal to give advice and assist your child in these types of serious decisions. However, taking the given advice or not, has to be their choice as well. If they make a mistake, they will learn from it.

There is no “man`s” job and “woman`s” job.  In the beginning of living together, it`s extremely important to clarify who`s got laundry, dishes, vacuuming on. There`s another method as well, the free partner this week/day, does the housework. So the busy one focuses on his job, project, presentation. If none of them is free, they clean together the next week. There is always a way to solve the problem. It`s necessary to want to find a proper solution, maintaining a healthy relationship.

All of the existing stereotypes need to be forgotten already. Nowadays, new families are able to hire nannies and have their apartments/houses cleaned. It is not a waste of money; it is an investment in a family well-being. All the responsibilities can be divided between both partners not to overload either of them.  If the family was a boat, it would be a canoe that makes no progress unless everyone paddles (Letty Cottin Pogrebin`s quote).